WIFE WANTS TO PAY LOBOLA FOR HER MAN | A divorcee who wants to marry again has gone to court seeking to have lobola banned in Zimbabwe or alternatively have women pay lobola for their husbands as well.
Priccilar Vengesai, a former Chitungwiza municipality chamber secretary and a lawyer has gone to the Constitutional Court challenging the continued payment of bride price.“I belong to the Shona tribe and I intend to enter into marriage as soon as this matter is concluded.
Under the Shona culture, lobola must be paid for a woman before the marriage is acceptable in the family and the society. In scenarios where lobola is not paid, parents and relatives of the bride would not allow the parties to legalise their marriage under the Marriage Act,” she said.
Vengesai said her experiences in previous marriages reduced her to an object,
“I did not participate in the pegging of the lobola price. I was never given a chance to ask for the justification of the amounts which were paid. This whole scenario reduced me to a property whereby a price tag was put on me by my uncles and my husband paid.
This demoralised me and automatically subjected me to my husband’s control since I would always feel that I was purchased,” she said.
Vengesai, should be allowed to live together as husband and wife without being compelled to pay bride price. If lobola should stay, it should be paid to both families.