MAKOSI : WHEN I DATED A YOUNGER MAN | Makosi has spoken of the rage she felt for her prospective mother-in-law when she fell in love with a younger man.
She spoke in the wake of First Lady, Grace Mugabe’s recent violence in South Africa.”My own pain comes from when I dated a Zimbabwean guy years ago, he was my junior but we were in love.
His mother hated the idea and she hated me.I fell pregnant, I’m not proud and his mother sent him away without a phone.
Long story short I would cry every day not knowing where the father of my child had gone, I couldn’t eat.
By the time I went for my 12 week scan the doctor looked at me and said there is no heart beat.
I refused an evacuation, I went home with a dead baby in my tummy… I went to every church open that weekend to cry out to God to give my baby back a heart beat I even met Mai Guti who prayed.
But by Monday I started bleeding I lost 5 litres of blood they rushed me to surgery again I almost lost my life. It has taken a while to get over that miscarriage.
Newspapers wrote about it I know the woman read it but until tomorrow the lady who is a worship leader has not said a word to me
Shortly after the miscarriage her son appeared again.
We dated briefly but the miscarriage haunted me for so long I had to end things. Then I couldn’t fight for love, she had all the church women turn against me…
So to Gabriella if your story is true, fight on…you are not fighting for you alone you are fighting for many women at different levels in their relationships who get victimised by the mothers of men they’ve not committed any crime with but fall in love…
I loathed the whole idea of a mother in law I desired to only marry if the guys mother is late Because my understanding of mother of a guy was a mean woman who I will always have to compete with for my husband’s love.