BABAMUKURU KISSED ME

I have a daunting story to tell, babamukuru (tete’s husband) kissed me.This occurred when I had visited their place like I always do because I study in Botswana and they also stay in Botswana so during university holidays I always visit them.

BABAMUKURU KISSED ME

He had always acted like he was interested in me, commenting on my pictures about how beautiful and curvy I am.

I used to brush it off and change the topic. He would also say some funny suggestive statements in front of my tete about me and we would all just laugh about it like “nhasi mainini you are sleeping in my bedroom ka tete vako vombopindawo mu guest room”, zvotopera.

I got comfortable thinking he would just be playing since he also does chiramu in front of tete. On this fateful day in the car park he started kissing and touching me I said no to his
advances at first but then I gave in and we kissed for about two minutes then I stopped the act.

We agreed not to mention it to anyone but I feel so guilty because I have my own boyfriend and my tete has always been good to me and my family and I know it is morally wrong.

I am 20 and my uncle is 38 and after that incident he has been texting me zviri weird and he states that he likes me and he misses me greatly.

He complains if I do not text or reply him the whole day. He makes it seem like we have a relationship of some sort. He is a mupostori so I am afraid he does not even think that what he is doing is wrong since it is part of their religious beliefs to practice polygamy but I am not a mupostori myself. Should I ask him what exactly he wants?

RESPONDS

I think you started your letter wrongly; how can you say babamukuru kissed you. It takes two to tango if it went on for two minutes or so then it was quite a long and passionate kiss. You are at university, at this level I assume that your reasoning is sharper and you can read in between lines.

From his silly comments you should have seen it coming. The ball was in your court, you could have stopped this. For your information chiramu does not mean passing dirty comments and using silly language. Whoever does this will have crossed the line.  You laughed when he got carried away so in his mind you seemed like a good candidate to fulfill
his desires.

Tete or you should have told him that it was wrong and you were not amused. I urge you to resist these sxual advances from babamukuru or whoever until you get married.

You have to learn to control yourself because if you do not you will end up being taken advantage of. I hope you did not take it further with babamukuru. Doing anything with him is betrayal at its worst.

Tete loves and respects you, she even hosts you at her house during the holidays. You have your own boyfriend and you are doing this behind his back, this is just unfortunate. I do not want to say much about him being a mupositori because we will then dignify his act because some of them are allowed to have as many wives as they want.

I certainly think that is a debate for another day. You have to stop this forthwith. This babamukuru is even capable of raping you. Ukatambira mukanwa meshumba unotsengwa tsengwa.

He is right to think you have accepted his nonsense because you did not resist him. Tell him it was a moment of madness and if he continues you will report him to tete. You are a major and a university student, common sense should tell you what he wants, why ask him
asi uri kutovadawo kani babamukuru vacho?

Please be warned, he is married to your loving tete, do not bring unnecessary fights into the family. Respect your body and keep your pride, do not let him take you for a lady of loose morals.

What you did is morally wrong, the only way forward now is to turn over a new leaf. If need be you can even stop visiting their place but do not cut communications with tete. Pray sincerely about this, God will forgive and help you map a way forward.

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